259. Is Sleeping in OK?

A photo by David Cohen. unsplash.com/photos/qghuLqyh3nEContinuing from: My Relationship with Sleep

Inspired by: Living Words – Discipline – Morning Routine – Self Forgiveness and Self Change – Day 521

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think that sleeping in is ok and the consequence of that can be avoided or not faced

I commit myself to realize that I will in fact face all consequences from/as/in my life, whether here or in the hereafter, even if my mind makes it seem like I won’t – I commit myself to no longer give into the bullshit that if I sleep in I won’t face the consequences of that

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear saying SF on sleeping in because I think what I did was bad – within and as self-judgement, and I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear the judgement that would be bestowed upon me upon realizing the consequential effects I made from sleeping in instead of realizing judging myself for sleeping in fuels self-destruction and problems rather than self-creation and finding solutions

I commit myself to stop judging myself if I sleep in and move immediately into living/becoming solution and assertiveness, not giving into the judgement but UNDERSTAND how I slipped/fell from the point and find another creative/innovative way to change/stop this point

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not take myself and my process seriously enough, where I think I can just sleep in for an hour or two and that doesn’t mean anything – when it actually does, the more I allow myself to sleep in based on self-interest to indulge in experiences, or to hide/escape reality, the more I abdicate my power to stand up and make decisions for me and allow the mind to control/dictate me

I commit myself to realize sleeping in and not using my time effectively to create Heaven on Earth within and without is serious and needs to be looked at immediately to be understood and changed so that I can move forward in creation

I forgive myself that I have NOT accepted and allowed myself to prepare me the night before on what may happen the next morning, meaning – when I wake up, what may be the reasons/justifications/excuses towards sleeping in, how good it ”Feels” and what I am going to do instead – so using my time to walk more of my process and create change in the education system. I thus should not let these reasons/justifications/excuses’ ’get the best of me’ to the extent where I make myself believe – from a sneaky mind manipulator point – that it is ok to sleep in, I won’t be harmed, I need sleep, or their won’t be consequences to face if I sleep in, when all the while I need to realize the more I sleep in, the more I time I lose that could have been used to walk more of my process into self-awareness, or to work on my ideas on changing the education system

I commit myself to remember/remind myself that the more I sleep in, the more time I lose to develop myself as an individual walking process, as well as working and creating change in the education system

I commit myself to challenge the reasons/excuses/justifications of sleeping in by actually doing the exact opposite, to prove to myself what is real and what is not

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to NOT realize, see and understand how I change who I am with sleeping in when the weather changes, and thus I require to simply adjust and re-align my stance to how and who I am going to be towards/with sleeping in all throughout the year – when every season changes and weather changes, I commit to stick to one stand, in Self-Honesty in principle, to sleep within the 4-6 range unless I Self Honesty need more — so no matter what the season is or whether it’s dark or light out when I wake up, me and my stand on who I am with rest/sleep will not change

I commit myself to find solutions on how to make getting out of bed comfortable and with ease/enjoyment instead of dread and resistance

I commit myself to stick to sleeping within the 4-6 hour range unless Self-Honestly unable to (sickness, physical exhaustion, etc)

I commit myself to pick me back up if I over sleep, and understand what happened and how I am going to change for the next time, to always no matter – stick to being as productive as I can be in/as self-support in the morning

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to become and live motivation, existing in motivation to start my day, to walk my process, to change and to fulfill my role in changing the education system

I commit myself to redefine and live MOTIVATION for me in my life, especially when I wake up and am motivated to start my day

 

Additional Resources:

Journey to Life Blogs – Walking the 7 Year Journey to Life

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

EQAFE.com – Self-Perfection Merchandise

Relationship Course – Redefining Relationships

258. Being Dishonest with Friends & How to Change That

photo-1461720486092-b6ee3f33d726I am in charge of organizing a day trip to a city and the tour guide I was talking to mentioned that we can visit a wine museum and then drink some wine. She mentioned ‘’you will like this…’’ and I was uncomfortable because I actually don’t drink and enjoy wine but because I enjoyed talking to her, she was nice to me and I liked her I did not want to speak up or ruin the talk cause I worried she would not like me or that she would suddenly be upset or concerned herself that she needs to change the tour. Which is then why I mentioned she should send me her information so I should look for it. I said to her ‘’I am excited – this seems fun,’’ without a mention about the wine part.

I find it really would have been no problem to mention briefly that I don’t drink but perhaps we can find a way to cater/please the other women to drink wine themselves. I don’t think this would have ruined/damaged our friendship but simply expanded her awareness of me.

I realize that when I like someone (a woman as potential friendship) and she likes me to, that I want to hold/keep that relationship as so, since I can see that I have a desire to have a close, secure and intimate relationship with a woman, where I can call them my best/good friend and they do the same as me, and we do things that I have desired/wanted from a female friendship of being liked, going out, having fun together. I realize though it rarely works this way – where female friendships can’t be so ideal because of the extent of the MCS, we can’t trust anyone, even our best friends can turn their backs on us. The only and best stable/secure relationship one can have is with ourselves, but even that is a process to walk to gain self-trust. So this craving for a deep, long-lasting female relationship perhaps comes from a lack of self-intimacy within and/or childhood points where I have had difficulty maintaining female friendships (and had problems with them for quite some time)…

If I could go back, what I would have done was: When N mentions the wine drinking and museum visit, and especially after she mentions ‘’you would like that!’’ I gently say ‘’ahh, actually I don’t drink alcohol, but maybe we can include that as an option for women to do…?’’ and see where that takes us.

Self-Forgiveness and Self Corrective/Commitment Statements:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not speak up and state that I don’t drink alcohol due to the fear of N judging me or suddenly not liking me as much as I believe she does already

When and as I see myself fear being judged or be not liked by someone by stating that I don’t drink alcohol, I stop and I breath. I realize what do I have to lose if I stand up and speak up for myself and where I stand? It would be worse for me to fall within the face of fear instead of standing up for who I am and what I drink and don’t drink. So, I commit myself to stand up instead of falling in fear of being judged if I don’t drink alcohol, and simply state it as so. The only thing to lose is a friend/potential friend and if they don’t want to be my friend cause I don’t drink alcohol, then that is better for me cause it shows to me they are not willing to get to know me and see what more I have to offer/be than alcohol (and I don’t want to be with such people anyways).

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and understand that I would compromise myself to have someone like me more, and from this I realize that one of my weaknesses and desires is to have an idealized friendship with a female, where I feel loved/liked and a part of something

I commit myself to stop compromising myself for an idealized friendship as I realize what I want is basically impossible and I cannot get it through compromising myself – but actually redefining and creating myself. So, I commit myself to redefine myself into an individual who stands up for who they are and the decisions they make (ie: no alcohol).

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to question ‘’what do I have to lose?’’ by being honest with N in showing to her my stance with alcohol within confidence and I realize because I didn’t speak up regarding this point, I still am not confident in speaking up about it in front of others due to fear of being excluded or not liked by people

When and as I see myself fear being excluded or not liked by people due to me speaking up about not drinking alcohol, I stop and I breathe. I realize that the only thing I have to lose is a few people who are not really worth it in the long run if they are not willing to get to know me/be with me due to my choice in alcohol. I realize I still have my partner who is like me in not drinking alcohol, so really there is nothing to lose. I commit myself to question ‘’what do I have to lose?’’ when I catch myself in moments of fear of being disliked or excluded for speaking up about my drinking choices as I realize I really have nothing to lose as my survival is ok/I have money, and I have a committed partner willing to walk his life with me

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to hold/keep/maintain a stable relationship with a woman the moment I know she finds interest in me as a friend, since I realize there is desire to have a close, secure relationship with a female where I can know for a fact they are my good friend and will always be so, instead of realizing this desire cannot in fact be so since relationships change over time and only if one has formed a deep connection with someone than that can be possible but in this day and age and our relationship with the MCS, it is basically impossible to have such a deep, pure female friendship/relationship

When and as I see myself desire a deep friendship with another woman, I stop and I breathe. I realize this relationship to manifest is impossible, as I first need to establish/have a deep, intimate relationship with myself, and that even despite me having a friendship with someone, one cannot be trusted entirely due to our relationships with the mind, and existing in the secret mind and backchats, etc. So I commit myself to let the female-friendship desire go as I also realize it’s perhaps due to childhood memories and instead embrace who I am here and appreciate the support and partnership I have with my partner as well as those in the Desteni community for always being there.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize this deep friendship I’ve been craving/desiring comes from situations in which I would see, define and be jealous of how close and connected my friend S was to her other friend, where they were like sisters and so similar to each other, they were so natural in who they were and because of that connected and formed a deep bond/relationship, something I haven’t had with a woman, but my partner. I realize they were a special in case in that most children are unable to form such a close bond with someone, so early in life in school years. Only certain children are able to connect very well in such a way, and so I should not take that situation personally as I realize they were a special case, and more children have been like me, yet I am grateful I do have a connection like that now with my partner.

I commit myself to make peace with the fact that the two girls who I envied and wanted a friendship with were a special particular case showing the rarity yet uniqueness of having such a friendship existent on a school level, since it is quite rare, and in turn what I have witnessed I am appreciative of it, seeing the potential that friendships can have, and also grateful in my life that I have a connected, quite deep relationship with my partner

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to crave/desire such a female relationship where we are similar and together all the time and because of that, dependable on each other, not realizing the points behind it such as: hiding behind a relationship, the fear of being alone, and the compromising effect of not being able to stand alone and speak up for oneself. I see, realize and understand many female friendships have women/girls who tend to hide within them to feel safe and included.

When and as I see myself crave/desire a female friendship, I stop and I breathe. I realize many female friendships existent today are based on self-dishonest and for hiding oneself to not feel excluded and/or cause the relationship supports a personality of theirs. I commit myself to identify what words are within female friendships that I like and would like to incorporate into my life, and see how I can practically do that for myself, in my relationship with me and my life.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that I can simply enjoy the company of other women, and that forming a deep bond/connection with someone is a process to walk to establish self-trust and intimacy, similar to how it was to create a bond with my partner

I commit myself to practice enjoying me in the company of women, and to not expect/desire/want a deep friendship out of it, but to simply enjoy the presence of another as me
Additional Resources:

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Journey to Life Blogs – Walking the 7 Year Journey to Life

EQAFE.com – Self-Perfection Merchandise

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Relationship Course – Redefining Relationships

257. A Kiss Driven by Love

photo-1444839368740-f0d3572f8067I found some writings on the experience of Love I’d like to share, where within the experience of love, one moves themselves to kiss someone:

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and understand I was being moved by consciousness energy of love, which is the polarity of fear

When and as I see myself be moved or want to move from / as the energetic experience of “love,” I stop and breathe. I realize I had been allowing myself to move me based on feelings as energetic experiences from consciousness, instead of moving me within awareness and a decision of kissing the person.

So I commit to STOP me from moving through/as/within consciousness energy of love, take a step back, breathe and assess what would be best for me now as a living being not defined/moved by consciousness. I can redefine and live the word “Directive” – directing me towards what I see best.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and understand that being moved to kiss someone out of feelings of “love” shows me where I’m still at in my process – that I was not aware of how I moved myself according to feelings as consciousness energy, even when it feels so good – that is the point of these feelings is to control and direct one to do things from it, and as long as you participate in it, you are a slave and making a statement to yourself you accept being driven by consciousness as energy experience of emotions and feelings

When or while I see myself be moved or want to move to kiss someone based on feelings of love, I stop and I breathe. I realize I am making a statement to myself and Life that I would still be a slave to energy as consciousness (and not my own decison and awareness) if I give in and move myself to do this- that I still accept and allow myself to be driven by energy as consciousness of feelings and emotions if I continue to move/exist in a state or mind possession of energy like “love”. From this, I commit myself to STOP participating in the energy experience of love the moment I see myself exist/experience it

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize the emotion/polarity experience of love is fear and be moved by that

When and as I see myself exist in the enegertic experience of love, I stop and I breathe. I realize I am participating in energy as consciousness of emotions and feelings and am now on the feeling side of the polarity…so I commit myself to stop, and use directiveness to move me as awareness of what I should do and who to be in this moment

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be moved by the energetic consciousness of polarity of LOVE- which is (positive) feelings

I commit myself to remind me (when/while I’m in/experiencing feelings of love) “oops I’m going into positive feelings now, which is part of consciousness energy and polarity. I will myself to not move from this but question where is this experience coming from?” And move me to source it and change by identifying what needs to be changed in the moment (ie: identifying the words/expressions of Love and becoming the words I have separated myself from, or simply breathing until the energy dissapates)

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to act on the feeling of love, as consciousness energy because it “feels so good,” Not realizing if I give into the feeling and allow myself to be possessed/taken over by this emotional experience, I am allowing myself to drop/weaken me and my stand in the face of feelings, like love and be directed/moved by it.

I see that there is a “weakness” in me of moving and allowing me to be directed by/thru positive energy, simply showing that I have (created) a relationship with positive feelings where I seek to live/experience them or be/want to move myself in them that require to be understood, directed and changed

I commit myself to become more aware of who I am in the face of positive feelings and experiences since I realize I have created a relationship to them, and from this awareness, practice stopping and standing in/as a point of authority by not moving with or in positive experiences, and not seeking to gain positive experiences, but simply be with me here, in breath with my body

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize if I am experiencing, being directed and/or moved by consciousness energy of feelings (like love) I am existing in polarity of consciousness and need to get myself out of that state otherwise I am trapping myself in the polarity construct of emotions and feelings

When I see myself be moved or possessed in the feeling-experience of love, I stop and I breathe. I realize this feeling is from polarity of energy as consciousness which means it’s opposite is fear and so I commit myself to stop my participation and allowance of being driven in consciousness as energy states of mind/being, to breathe through the feelings to stabilize/ground myself, and instead use the energies as cross reference of where I’m at and what words or underlying points I still need to work on

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize behind the energetic consciousness of feelings towards X are simply WORDS I separated from myself that X represents and triggers for me, thus-

I commit myself to identify the words as expressions I separated myself from and find how use them in me and my life through the redefining and living process presented through SOUL

 

Additional Resources:

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Journey to Life Blogs – Walking the 7 Year Journey to Life

EQAFE.com – Self-Perfection Merchandise

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Relationship Course – Redefining Relationships

Slave-Master Set-Up at Nail Salons

photo-1463018122985-d3ece5248b05Here I share my realizations and insights from my experience receiving a manicure and pedicure:

First of all, I noticed upon getting the pedicure how the worker was bent over to tend to my feet. I immediately looked at how uncomfortable they must be, hunched over. But what was most disturbing to me was how the whole set up was like slave-serving-master, where I was sitting above the person in a large comfortable chair, having my feet being tended to while the worker was hunched over doing their job. I am sure they, like me, would not enjoy cleaning other stranger’s feet, rubbing off grime, and picking off cuticles, but it is their job. The workers also come from Asia, and do not speak much English. Perhaps they are immigrants who came here for a better life, but this type of job is nothing glamorous, and not the ‚‘American Dream’’ people want.

From my experience receiving this treatment, questions came up:

—How can one relax and enjoy a manicure/pedicure when another is breaking their back for you? How can this be glamorous? How can a customer truly be happy if the working environment of their attendant does not consider human comfort and needs?

Then I remembered the saying ’no one is free until all are free,’’ from the Desteni community, where within the principles of equality and oneness, I see it as: we as people cannot be or live in true happiness unless all people in this world are equally happy and free — most specifically free from consciousness that has been programmed as an enslavement tool for humanity.

There’s a lot to think about and consider when it comes to the working conditions and treatments we allow our fellow humans to endure and live with every day.  The only real thing we can do to start making an impact in this world is to actually become living individuals of change – changing ourselves into a person who actually cares about life, about others, and about themselves.

The free Desteni Lite Process course is a great first start to taking that step into real self change.

256. Men – Part 1

photo-1454625191319-786c05137ef5I was flipping through a yearbook and saw photo of a male classmate who use to be very nice to me. I had a movement in me, opened it up through Self-Forgiveness, and wanted to explore it deeper here… 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel uncomfortable towards men/males being nice to me, since I am suspicious that they really do not mean to be so, genuinely

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have the belief and idea that most to all men are really not nice, genuinely, and that they are really mean

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to justify that men/males really are just mean by using examples of my past, and memories of when I perceived males to be mean/not so nice, either to me or to people in general

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear men, especially men who are nice to me because I don’t believe them to be really nice, and that they either have hidden intentions (which is why they are nice) or that they are not really nice but putting on a face

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to not believe in one man’s ”nice’expression/could not believe one man to suddenly be nice to me after not seeing him for a long time, because he had for the majority of my life, been ”mean”/not nice to me, to the point of bullying, from which I can see I haven’t forgiven yet

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and understand how I have been holding onto memories of situations and interactions with men/certain men in the past, who have treated me (in what I perceive) as unkindly, and not nice and used those interactions to support and justification the idea/belief all men are really not nice or mean, due to what I’ve experienced with them in the past, carrying these beliefs with me as a point of protection from feeling/getting hurt by them

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to ‘hate’ men for being mean to women, instead of seeing how I have in a way am taking sides against them and separating myself from the

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to give me and my self-worth/voice away to the fear I have towards males and what they may say or do to me

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear men call me fat, and/or ugly because if they call me these things I will believe them and take their words personally

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to give more value to the words from a man, then from me and who/how I see myself, believe of myself

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe and find myself inferior and not good enough for men, instead of questioning where and when did I allow myself to give my self-worth to them? since I realize that I have given my power and my self-worth to men and their words and judgements towards me and women

I commit myself to investigate when and where did it begin where I shifted my self-worth to the words and actions of men, and why, so I can forgive each point of self-seperation and align myself back into self-acceptance and self-worth

I commit myself to purify my relationship to the words ”fat” and ”ugly” so if IF I am called those words, I know my relationship to them and do not take words personally, but know where to stand with myself with/from those words

I commit myself to forgive and release the attachments I have defined myself towards my own memories towards men while creating my new relationship with who I am and where I stand with men, and their words/behaviors towards me

255. From Spoiled to Responsible with Money

photo-1434123700504-d8cfba6a12c8Before I was careless about money. I had major credit card debt, and had the attitude that I will eventually pay it off later, everything is ok, as I continued to go shopping and buy whatever I wanted and needed. 

I lived with my parents up to my late 20’s and was quite spoiled in that I didn’t have to pay for rent or my car.

Because I didn’t have that responsibility, I hadn’t necessarily developed the awareness and or had education on how to be responsible with money and doing future planning. I just bought what I wanted, easily. I never told my parents about my credit card debt – I kept that quiet cause I didn’t think it was a big issue. I was apathetic and in denial with my finances. I didn’t think I could be affected with it. The reality of debt hit me hard when I was planning to get married, and planning to move overseas to be with my partner, and I realized I have actual money to pay off, otherwise it’s going to stay stuck with me, even overseas. I did have my partner help me out, but through babysitting and odd jobs I eventually paid it off.

When I left my job to officially live with my partner, I became financially dependent on him, and my partner grew up in a household where money was precious, and the father especially made sure that they never went over their spendings, or had debt. The family saved a lot of money over the years and only bought what they needed, so they were always extremely careful with money. They only bought the essentials, and they only bought food they needed and only went out to a restaurant once a year. So how my partner grew up in regards to money and spending/using money was SO DIFFERENT than how I spent/used money.

Because of our different backgrounds with money, my partner and I had a LOT of conflicts about it, and I went into these temper tantrums when I wanted something he saw as unnecessary and excessive. It got to the point where I would have these emotional outbursts in public when I couldn’t get what I wanted. It was very embarrassing cause my partner would say to STOP IT, cause I was being loud and embarrassing myself. I did not know the extent of my emotional possessions until it was too late and I had already acted out from them. I forgave myself of my behavior in public, committing myself to become more aware of who I am when it comes to my behavior with getting things I want, slowing down and acting in a way that I would be proud of.

I knew I had a problem at that point. I knew that I had to work it out. I found the main reason of my initial instability was the transition of coming from a spoiled, free-flowing buy whatever you want lifestyle to suddenly becoming financially dependent with someone on a limited budget was a bit extreme for me, which opened up intense emotions and behaviors in me.

Dealing with my emotional outbursts/temper tantrums using real time application was tough because the energy experience was so strong, and made me feel powerful in that if I acted on the temper tantrum I believed I would get what I wanted. But actually my partner would stand his ground and not allow it, would reason with me on why what I wanted was not necessary, or that we can’t afford it. He did this over and over again (stood his ground) until I realized how I need to let these emotions go because my behaviors were futile, and I didn’t actually want to be like this. 

I had to accept my reality of where I was at, and my position, and that I have everything I need to survive and live comfortably on, even if I am not 100% happy with it. It took a LONG time for me to accept this reality.

Eventually when I got full time work, my partner and I collectively had more money, and this allowed us to get an apartment and become more responsible with our assets. We realized we needed to come up with a more structured way of using money, so we agreed on a monthly allowance, where we got the same budge of allowance equally with our individual freedom to buy what we wanted within our allowance, and then the rest of the money would go to the apartment, bills, and savings. This has worked out quite well.

Sometimes I still experience the emotional conflict of whether to buy something or not… should I get it…I really want it … within a particular  energy of desire — what really supports me is taking a deep breath, and asking myself self-honestly‚”do I need this, will I actually use this?” using constructive imagination to place myself in the future with the item, in determining if it would be used, and what the consequences would be if I were to buy this item. I wasn’t perfect with this – I stumbled and bought some things too much, and had to face my partner about it, since my spendings came from our money pot, but over time, the more I stopped myself from buying unnecessary items, asking myself questions within self-honesty, I got more stable with what I wanted and over time understood what I needed, and became happy and proud with my choices.

So here’s a breakdown of what supported me over the years walking from being irresponsible with money, to responsible:

What supported me

  • Oberserving, learning, and appreciating the simplistic lifestyle of my partner’s family by allowing myself to listen and remain humble to where my partner was coming from, his suggestions on saving money and how to work with it, taking the best points and using it with our finances
  • Getting a job, and being responsible with my paycheck in giving some money to bills, etc
  • Making the agreement with my partner that my money is his money, and vice versa, meaning that all of our money goes into a collective pot for the both of us
    • We sat down and wrote out a plan on how much money goes to rent, bills, etc, how much to use as allowance, how much to savings, holiday, etc, and it took me like 3 months to settle in with this plan, cause sometimes I would overspend, but me and my partner always went back to our agreement, and I would remind myself again and again of the agreement, and if I fell/overspent on something, I had to face my partner about it, and the consequence would allow me to pick myself back up and commit to be better for next month. 
    • Yes I originally got upset about the limited budget, but I realized this is what I need to make myself responsible. This is real life and ”I need this discipline.”  Over time I realized that if I wanted some nice shoes, I see if I can wait a month, and if I can’t wait, cause I need them for a special event, etc, I to talk to my partner about it, and see if he can help me or if we can take a certain amount of money out of my allowance every month to pay for it, so its about communicating and working with my partner
  • Allowing my partner to be the manager of our finances where he directs the money to the appropriate bills and resources since he has the most stable relationship with money and knows when not to overspend.

If it wasn’t for my partner, who stood his ground, and saw the importance of keeping to our budget, of being responsible for money, and for me, allowing myself to listen to his suggestions, to have that ability in me to become humble, and to find solutions through my time participating in Desteni and applying the tools, I wouldn’t be who I am today. So I am very grateful.

Additional Resources:

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Journey to Life Blogs – Walking the 7 Year Journey to Life

EQAFE.com – Self-Perfection Merchandise

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Relationship Course – Redefining Relationships

254. Perspectives on TV and Celebrity Gossip Distractions

photo-1461151304267-38535e780c79I’ve been in the USA for a week now, since living in Europe for 2 years, and have been amazed by the amount of distractions that my home country has – and I’ve only become aware of since coming back here.

There are a lot of TV shows and channels, with a bombardment of commercials. In the country of Austria for example, there are commercials, but not as frequent as US. Like for a 30 minute TV show, commercials come in 15 minutes in, and stream a few minutes, whereas in the US, commercials seem to come every 5 minutes in between the TV show.  

This is also the same with the radio – with more commercials than music, and sometimes there are breaks in between commercials to talk about latest celebrity gossip. There is more news on celebrities than actual real-life serious events, and I’m assuming it’s cause people want to hear celebrity news more than news that matters. It seems to be much more accepted and ok to talk about and get involved in other people’s (celebrity) lives, as if we truly care? Does this really matter? Why is Kim Kardashian and Taylor Swift’s feud so important – what is the point… why do we care?  

On US news reports,there is heavy emphasis on using words to evoke emotion and fear. ”Deadly flood in Missouri,” or ”frightening car accident,” is mentioned to discuss tragic events – and with these added words ”deadly” and ”frightening,” make the news report seem so much more dramatic and fear-inducing for the viewers.

The hosts know the right tones and words to capture your attention, and by getting to your emotions, your fears, you allow yourself to be captured and enticed by the words. These speakers know how to bring you in, even if temporarily, as a form of manipulation. Isn’t this brainwashing? Or a form of enslavement?  It is really sad to know people are unaware of these points, which is why I find it necessary to talk about it now.

Yesterday, while I watched my dad flip through commercial after commercial on TV, I asked my mom if the USA has the most TV viewers, because it seems so with the amount of new TV shows being premiered.  Surprinsingly, research shows USA ranks #6, while Thailand is number 1.

Regardless, TV shows and celebrity news can be a major distraction for people, and if you have not investigated the nature of TV reports, and manipulation in the media, one can easily be pulled in with certain words, and tones of voices and get easily swayed by people’s words.

Finding a balance between TV and staying grounded in the real world, as well as knowing where you stand with words and the media seems like the best way to go. The free DIP Lite program is the first step to erase the media’s manipulation on you, so give it a shot and see what you discover from it!

Also, worthwhile investments:

Media Hypnotism

Losing Touch in Watching

Additional Resources:

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Journey to Life Blogs – Walking the 7 Year Journey to Life

EQAFE.com – Self-Perfection Merchandise

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Relationship Course – Redefining Relationships